This was posted by one of my lieutenants I think it would be good for XG if it was adopted
his gamers is DieInOzDorothy
Ps haven't games with ya in a while hit me up sometime
Gamer IDs
Gamertag: DieInOzDorothy
Crucial Conversations.
This thread is for suggestions on how to handle situations community or personal.
All statements below are given from life experience and should not be used out of that context.
If you are ever that person who is faced with a situation and you feel you can help then read on.
Things to evaluate before you decide to interject.
1. Are you the only person who views this as a problem? If you are the only person who views something as a problem maybe the problem lies with you.
2. If the problem is with an individual or individuals is it something that can be changed? If the issue is with a personality that you find less than desirable maybe you just need to suck it up. Determine if the issue is something that realistically can be changed. Do not assume everyone should be like you. Do not assume all situations should go the way you believe they should.
3. Make any one above you aware of the issue. Let them have a chance to fix the situation. That is what they are there for.
4. Have some level of compassion. Look at the situation objectively. If the issue is with an individual keep in mind there might be more going on than you are aware of.
5. Keep the facts straight. If you are dealing with a situation that breaks a law, rule, or regulation then make all parties aware you are just following the rules. Do not change your story if confronted by someone above you. Altering the events will not only destroy any help you attempted to give but will also turn the facts in to opinion. Remain factual.
6. Do not let personal feelings become part of the situation. Remember you are the person trying to help the situation. If your feelings get in the way then you are no longer helping. Remain calm and offer what you can to help fix things. lashing out in a situation will cause adverse effects and negate any help you are trying to give.
7. Remember things still may go wrong. Despite all of your attempts to help the situation escalated. Keep in mind this is not necessarily a failure. Some part of the help you lent to the situation will eventually help. The individual or individuals will eventually use or reference some portion of the help you offered.
8. If things do escalate. Keep your path clear. You are there to help. Most times you will be given as the reason the individual or individuals are having a hard time. This is the most crucial advise I can offer. Do not lash out. They will attempt to beat you up. They will try to change the facts in an attempt to show you at fault. Hold true to your efforts. Don't let everything fall apart at this point. Do not let your personal feelings get in the way. Remain calm.
9. Things escalated and the jury is in with a conviction. You should view this as a loss. An individual or individuals you were attempting to help are now facing consequences. Remember when you decide to help? That is when you decided the people involved were worthy of helping. You gave your best effort and fell short. Remain there for the individuals. Don't completely shut the door. Remember you made a commitment to help. That commitment should not end or all of your help was for nothing.
10. Above all do not let this loss keep you from helping in the future. Learn from the events and apply the lessons learned to your personal life. We never stop learning. We don't know everything. And there is always a better way to handle a situation.
11. Remember this thread is here to help. It is not based on fact but instead life lessons. Use it as suggestion only.
12. Please offer any objective suggestions you might have. People in the community may benefit from what you post in this thread.
his gamers is DieInOzDorothy
Ps haven't games with ya in a while hit me up sometime
Gamer IDs
Gamertag: DieInOzDorothy
Crucial Conversations.
This thread is for suggestions on how to handle situations community or personal.
All statements below are given from life experience and should not be used out of that context.
If you are ever that person who is faced with a situation and you feel you can help then read on.
Things to evaluate before you decide to interject.
1. Are you the only person who views this as a problem? If you are the only person who views something as a problem maybe the problem lies with you.
2. If the problem is with an individual or individuals is it something that can be changed? If the issue is with a personality that you find less than desirable maybe you just need to suck it up. Determine if the issue is something that realistically can be changed. Do not assume everyone should be like you. Do not assume all situations should go the way you believe they should.
3. Make any one above you aware of the issue. Let them have a chance to fix the situation. That is what they are there for.
4. Have some level of compassion. Look at the situation objectively. If the issue is with an individual keep in mind there might be more going on than you are aware of.
5. Keep the facts straight. If you are dealing with a situation that breaks a law, rule, or regulation then make all parties aware you are just following the rules. Do not change your story if confronted by someone above you. Altering the events will not only destroy any help you attempted to give but will also turn the facts in to opinion. Remain factual.
6. Do not let personal feelings become part of the situation. Remember you are the person trying to help the situation. If your feelings get in the way then you are no longer helping. Remain calm and offer what you can to help fix things. lashing out in a situation will cause adverse effects and negate any help you are trying to give.
7. Remember things still may go wrong. Despite all of your attempts to help the situation escalated. Keep in mind this is not necessarily a failure. Some part of the help you lent to the situation will eventually help. The individual or individuals will eventually use or reference some portion of the help you offered.
8. If things do escalate. Keep your path clear. You are there to help. Most times you will be given as the reason the individual or individuals are having a hard time. This is the most crucial advise I can offer. Do not lash out. They will attempt to beat you up. They will try to change the facts in an attempt to show you at fault. Hold true to your efforts. Don't let everything fall apart at this point. Do not let your personal feelings get in the way. Remain calm.
9. Things escalated and the jury is in with a conviction. You should view this as a loss. An individual or individuals you were attempting to help are now facing consequences. Remember when you decide to help? That is when you decided the people involved were worthy of helping. You gave your best effort and fell short. Remain there for the individuals. Don't completely shut the door. Remember you made a commitment to help. That commitment should not end or all of your help was for nothing.
10. Above all do not let this loss keep you from helping in the future. Learn from the events and apply the lessons learned to your personal life. We never stop learning. We don't know everything. And there is always a better way to handle a situation.
11. Remember this thread is here to help. It is not based on fact but instead life lessons. Use it as suggestion only.
12. Please offer any objective suggestions you might have. People in the community may benefit from what you post in this thread.
